Life coach lists signs that signal a failing marriage

In an attempt to help couples address problems before their marriage fails, a life coach recently listed ten of the more common signs that a marriage is heading towards divorce.

A theme echoed through many of the signs was a lack of communication. According to the coach, there is a difference between forgetting to share information and intentionally keeping secrets. Intentionally hiding information from each other can be a red flag of bigger issues within the marriage.

Tied to a lack of communication is "tuning each other out." Simply not caring about the presence of a spouse or what the spouse is saying is another sign of an unstable marriage.

Some challenges seem inherent to the divorce process

Anger, regret, frustration, sadness, relief and guilt are just a sampling of the many emotions often experienced by an individual who is going through a divorce. All of these, and a host of others, are normal and nothing can truly prepare an individual for the emotional and mental roller coaster that is divorce.

While every couple's situation and divorce is unique, there are some factors that seem inherit to the divorce process. For example, during and in the wake of a divorce, parents often struggle to keep their negative emotions about an ex-spouse in check. While it can be incredibly difficult to remain civil with an ex while the wounds of a split are so fresh, for the sake of shared children, it's critical.

Custody battles involving pets becoming more common

The family pet can be an important member of the family. Many people develop deep-seated emotional attachments to their pets, whether dog, cat, bird or horse, which they do not want to lose in a divorce. This can be all the more so for couples without children.

And during a divorce, which is an emotionally upsetting time on its own, the presence of a beloved dog or cat can help one of the parties get through the emotional trauma that may occur. A dog may provide that unquestioningly loyalty and love that is most needed when other emotional support fails.

Hiding of marital assets in with Bitcoin

During a divorce, especially a high-asset divorce, it is very important to identify and locate all of the marital assets. This is because modifications to property division in a divorce, in Missouri and virtually every state are very difficult to obtain.

Unlike an order for child custody, child support or spousal support, which can be modified with a showing of a significant or substantial change in the circumstance of the parties, to modify the division of marital assets typically requires a showing of actual fraud, which may be difficult and expensive to prove.

Marriage stress can cause symptoms of depression, study finds

Humans are social animals, and studies have shown that marriage generally has a positive effect on people. Marriage may not always produce that positive effect if the couple's relationship begins to sour. Few people divorce on the spur of the moment, and when clients come to us, problems and difficulties have often been simmering for long periods of time, often with some crisis driving a husband or wife to a divorce attorney.

The tension and stress of a marriage gone wrong is rarely an attractive sight. While we may have suspected that this type of stress is unhealthy, new research from the University of Wisconsin-Madison has found a connection between this stress and a potential symptom of depression.

A divorce may be good for your business

Divorce is personal. Really personal. When something goes wrong in a relationship, it may be very difficult to fix, and it may have been very difficult to predict just what would go wrong. A small business relationship, with two owners, is a great deal like a marriage, and some business owners might spend more time with their co-owner than with their spouse.

This, of course, can lead to problems and potentially a divorce. But what if the co-owners of the business are also spouses? This can be a marriage made in heaven, or that other place, depending on how well each aspect of the two relationships interacts. 

Should no fault divorce laws be changed?

No-fault divorce laws were passed to eliminate artificial barriers to divorce that served little purpose. A history of divorce in America notes that at one time, couples seeking divorce would stage "adulterous scenes" complete with a "mistress" and a photographer, to enable them to provide evidence to the court of the necessary adultery component of a divorce proceeding.

Some states are seeing varying types of legislation introduced that would attempt to begin moving divorce law back to that time. From waiting periods to the creation of covenant marriage, these attempts, some subtle, other highly restrictive are designed to "fix" a problem, that of easy divorce. But we should ask if that really is the problem.

Prepare yourself for the rigors of divorce and co-parenting

Everyone has heard that divorce is a difficult time that requires the splitting spouses to expend a lot of emotional and mental energy. There's no changing that, even if the spouses are able to agree to an uncontested divorce or use alternative dispute resolution tactics. No matter how simple the divorce is and no matter how quickly it gets done, the splitting spouses will still have to expend some emotional and mental energy.

This is important to realize for people going into the divorce process, because some people may think that their divorce will be "different" and that the process will just "fly by." While it's true that every divorce is unique, it is impossible to say how quickly your divorce will get done. It could take only weeks -- or it could take many months, or years. It all depends on the dynamic between the splitting spouse and the complexity of the issues inherent to their divorce.

Trace Adkins and wife to divorce

When news breaks about a celebrity heading for divorce court, discussions often turn to the potential property division issues, or possibly question whether a prenuptial agreement is in place. In general, the issues that may surround property division in what may be a high-asset divorce are a great concern for people involved. Columbia area residents may have unique goals in seeking a potential settlement related to property. But, other issues may also be at the forefront in a divorce.

News has broken that country music star Trace Adkins and his wife separated on Monday. Tuesday, Rhonda Adkins filed for divorce in the estranged couple’s home state. The two had been married for roughly 16 years. Adkins and his soon-to-be- ex-wife have three minor children together, ranging in age from 9 to 16 years old. In her paperwork, Ms. Adkins is seeking primary residential custody of the three girls in the divorce.

Tax Time: Who takes the child exemptions in a Missouri divorce?

Child custody arrangements are often an important aspect in a divorce. Missouri law essentially recognizes two forms of custody -- physical custody and legal custody. Some people may seek to address the two issues at the same time -- possibly agreeing to joint custody arrangements. Legal custody involves who will have the decision making authority in important matters, such as health care and where the kids will attend school. Physical custody refers to the living arrangements for the kids.

While a divorced couple may opt for joint physical custody, the time spent with each parent may vary from case to case. In some situations the kids may alternate between each parent’s residence every other week, while in other joint custody arrangements the children may spend more time with one parent or the other for a variety of reasons.

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